I was able to spend some time (trying) to be still
yesterday. After sitting down and wrestling with to-dos and things I wanted to
accomplish, I finally relented. I was trying to be still but the only thing I
wanted to think about in my “stillness” was how much I wanted to be “doing”. I
jotted down all of the things that had been stealing my attention –groceries,
cleaning, reaching out to people, making a gift for a friend who is expecting her
4th child this month…
As I glanced down at my list, I felt like God gave me some
clear eyes for a moment. I wrote:
“Lord, I feel weighed down by things that are meant to be
blessings.”
In that moment, God spoke truth where I needed to hear it.
You’re making things that I meant to be blessings into burdens.
At first I felt a little defeated. Here’s another thing I
messed up. But then, I felt free. Rather than letting me continue to sit in my
anxious and overwhelmed state, God spoke truth.
I tried to trace back to the root of this. When did
opportunities to serve friends, and pray, and even the gift of free time become
so overwhelming?
A familiar thought came to mind. I think one of the thoughts
at the core of this anxiety is not wanting to waste any opportunity.
I have this vivid memory from childhood: I was at Disney
World with my family –I must have been 8 or 10 years old. My dad told me, my
brother, and my sister that we could each pick out a souvenir. I walked around
the bright store captivated by toys, and stuffed animals, and those cheap
little light sabers with Mickey Mouse on the end (you know the one!). The world
was my oyster! I could choose anything! My brother and sister both quickly
chose their souvenirs. But then there was me. I wandered. And looked. And
pondered. And tried to decide, but just couldn’t!
In the midst of my toy deliberating, I looked up to make
sure I didn’t get left behind. I could see my dad waiting at the register and
giving me that “you ready yet?” look. So I quickly wandered back through some
aisles and then grabbed the Mickey art set off the shelf.
I was glad with my selection but, my goodness, what a
process! What was meant to be a blessing, my dad letting me pick out a Disney
souvenir, turned into such a burden! I can still remember the emotions my
little self was feeling… I just didn’t want to pick the wrong thing. I didn’t
want to waste this opportunity of free choice.
Guess what? I think big Christina still struggles with the
same thing.
I’ve graduated from picking out toys to stressing out about
how to best serve a friend or spend my free time. Serving others is a blessing
that the Lord lets us take part in. And free time is a gift!
The verse from Galatians 5 comes to mind, “You, my brothers
and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom
to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.”
How fitting is this verse? It addresses this issue of using your freedom that I'm wrestle with spot
on. God, like my earthly father, gives us a command with a pretty wide range of
options. God tells us what NOT to use our freedom for but he leaves it up to us
to figure out what to spend our freedom on, as long as it’s serving others.
This is a gift! I know I keep reiterating it but that’s because it truly is a
gift. God gives us the freedom to decide what to do with our freedom.
I’m trying, with God’s help, to become more free in my
freedom –more free in my decision making. All of my striving to choose the right thing
actually just turns into an inward-focused, indulging of my flesh. Those
certainly aren’t my intentions, but that’s the result. This is the exact thing
that God warns us about –you are
free, just use it to be self-serving. Rather than agonizing over what to
choose, I want to focus more on the heart.
So here’s my plea to be free in Christ and to use the
freedom that he gives me to influence my decision making about my freedom:
Father, I praise you that I am free from sin and bondage and
the pressing cares of this world. You know my heart, even my little heart back
in the Disney gift shop. You know my desire to do the “right thing” and to not
waste my freedom, but God, don’t let that cripple me from enjoying your gift.
Allow my heart to experience the joy of serving others without being worried
that I’m not doing enough. Allow my heart to experience the fullness of your
presence in serving, praying, and even the down-time. Lord, help me to aim at
heaven’s joy, and protect me from trying to create that on my own through
experiences here on this earth. Amen.